Couples Counseling

Are You Feeling Stuck in Conflict?

You may feel stuck in the same arguments with your partner, unsure how to break the cycle. Conversations can escalate quickly, or one of you may shut down while the other feels unheard or dismissed. You might notice growing distance, resentment, or a loss of connection, even though you still care deeply about one another.

You may be wondering whether your relationship can change, or if this is simply where things have landed.

It is Normal to Feel Lost in Cycles of Conflict

Many couples experience these struggles at some point in their relationship. Even loving, committed partners can get caught in painful patterns that leave both people feeling frustrated or disconnected. This doesn’t mean your relationship is broken, or that either of you has failed. It means something important is happening that may need support and attention.

Seeking couples counseling is a common and meaningful step toward creating change.

Relational Life Therapy Can Help

I offer couples counseling to help you understand what’s happening beneath the conflict and to support you in changing the patterns that keep you stuck. I provide a safe, structured environment where both partners can slow down, feel heard, and work toward a healthier way of relating.

My role is to help you move out of reactive cycles and into greater honesty, accountability, and connection.

Getting Out of the You & Me and into the We

My work with couples is grounded in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), an approach that focuses on helping partners recognize how emotional reactivity, self-protection, and power struggles show up in their relationship.

In our work together, we may:

  • Identify recurring patterns that fuel conflict

  • Increase awareness of emotional triggers and reactions

  • Strengthen each partner’s ability to self-regulate

  • Practice healthier communication and repair

  • Build greater mutual respect and emotional connection

Sessions are active and collaborative. I will interrupt unhelpful dynamics as they occur and support you in practicing new responses in real time.

You May Still be Uncertain about Couples Counseling

“What if my partner is the main problem?”
Couples counseling is not about blame. It’s about understanding how both partners contribute to the dynamic and learning how to create change together.

“What if we’re not sure therapy will work?”
It’s normal to feel uncertain, especially if you’ve tried to resolve things on your own. Therapy offers a different kind of support—one that helps make invisible patterns visible and provides tools for lasting change.

“What if we’re already too far apart?”
Many couples begin counseling feeling discouraged or disconnected. Change is possible when both partners are willing to engage honestly, even if they feel unsure at first.

Training Status & Reduced Rate

I am currently completing advanced training in Relational Life Therapy and am offering couples counseling at a reduced rate while in training. I receive ongoing clinical supervision to support ethical and thoughtful care. Reduced-fee openings are limited.

Next Steps for Getting Good at Relating

If you’re interested in couples counseling or would like to explore whether this is a good fit, I invite you to reach out. An initial consultation can help us determine the best next step for you and your partner.

Schedule a Consultation by calling 720.334.8867

or email; erin@bouldersomatictherapy.com